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  • welcome to the hole

    welcome to the hole

    Once upon a time, I kept a LiveJournal account, gryphons_hole, a deep, dark, comfy little hole in my brain where I kept notes on my life and queerness.

    This is the archive to that account, mostly password protected, adult, queer content, stripped of photo content after the site restructured its photo hosting feature. I hope to restore that content as well.

    If I know you, ask for the password. If I don’t, hope for a generous mood.

    08.18.24 I have realized a need to continue in this space. A kink reawaking if you will, with content that may range into inappropriate for my other blog spaces.

  • I got chills, they’re multiplying…

    But, luckily, my bowels have yet to lose control…

    I have influenza A, after a second day off (not in a row) and a doctor’s appointment this afternoon.

    The parts of the quotient that add to the dilemma?

    One, my doctor informed me that although the CDC suggests that contagion runs for seven days, a general guide could be considered ‘while feverish’. Actually, some word meaning feverish that I had never heard before that moment, and subsequently have forgotten.

    Two, he wrote a prescription for Tamiflu, which he said would knock the bug out in a day or two, which also happens to be another Specialty Tier 4 drug and would cost me sixty bucks, which I don’t have outside of budget at the moment. so I cancelled it.

    I still have a fever, and it is a step up from when I was at the office for the appointment.

    I cannot miss anymore work without pay, and taking more vacation at this point would seriously short me latter in the year, considering the plant does three forced shut-dons in the second half of the year that would be bad.

    The solution?

    I popped some ibuprofen to help with the fever through the night. If I still have a fever in the morning, I will not go into work. Getting screwed by a bad job, and by sick co-workers that don’t stay home when ill, doesn’t shift my character to the place where I can return the favor… and I already worked one day this week, thinking it was a cold past the point of spreading…

    Independent of tomorrow at work, I will be scare from the world this weekend. I already wisely cancelled plans with a generous couple to take in a concert of classical music; that will hurt a bit, but not as much as playing the role of patient zero…

    Ugh.

    EDIT: Of curious note, this fever has left me ravenous through the entire thing. I have worked to curb the range of what I ate, but I have eaten shit-tons of stuff that I thought folks with a fever should not likely eat… and without any GI ramifications, except gas, and really, I can live with that…

    Of course, I have killed a gallon of rainbow sherbet in three days, and had inhaled the better part of a five pound bag of potatoes, boiled, and with an insane amount of butter, and cilantro and green onions. And my body and brain rejoiced each and every time…

    Now, however, I am fretting that the food could be harboring the criminal, as it were, and maybe it would be better to starve myself, but I cannot seem to do it. Also unlike my usual self, I am fighting the process of re-hydrating every step of the way, which is incredibly frustrating…

    EDIT V_2: And for the record, this pureed butternut squash soup is heavenly…

  • off to bed or else I might cry…

    I am sick; it seems so often so far this year…

    I do not entirely understand it. To me, a flu is: fever, aches, chills. A cold is: sore throat, congestion and, when not tended to, crap moving into the chest…

    Monday, I ended the day with chills and shakes, slept through the night, got up and proceeded to call off from work and went back to bed for another five hours of sleep. The aches set in pretty quickly, although I have been having a hard time staying hydrated… Last night was full of a routine: sleep two more hours, get up for one and tire myself out again…

    This morning, I went into work. Any fever I may have had was broken, but I still ached like hell. And now, I have something rattling in my chest, but not with much expectorating… Odd thing that. And my sinuses are less stuffing then usual…

    Ugh.

    I have an appointment tomorrow afternoon.

    I am going to bed. I can take huge heaps of pain and shrug it all off, but these relentless aches are my undoing… They never stop and  eventually cut me off from my grounding.

    Good night. With luck, tomorrow will be a better day.

    *smooch*

  • pansy is as pansy does

    I have decided that I need a pansy suit. Yes, seriously…

    I am home sick today with something light enough but unpleasant.

  • the slow goodbye

    My studiomate’s health has been dropping steadily for over a year now.

    I don’t wish to get into his details, so I will just say that after a long series of difficulties, his liver has shut down. He is losing weight, well, perhaps maintaining weight now, but has lost so much which he cannot regain. He is six foot tall and only 120 pounds at best. I feel his vertebrae dig into my arm when I hug him…

    He is now on disability, unable to drive himself anywhere, much less do his job as exhibit preparator.

    He can no longer contribute to the rent here in the studio. Or he needs to not do so any more.
    I don’t think I can manage the whole thing on my own, so it causes a bind.

    More over, he is no longer fit and able enough to help remove or sell off the stuff he has here, let alone all the f-ing crap left from his ex, who was the previous renter here, some five years ago.

    On the upside, Michael has consent to cutting out the ex’s crap; I spent a chunk of today dumping shit out in the dumpster on the dock.

    That felt good.

  • Protected: dancing ’bout in my underwear

    Protected: dancing ’bout in my underwear

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  • a wardrobe becoming real

    a wardrobe becoming real


    Another sweater reclaimed from moth holes and horrible plastic faux-leather buttons. This one is a Scottish-made brown wool, suede-front cardigan.

  • seriously, social skills!

    Here we go:

    I should say, he has no public photo and only one private. Of course, it is a dick shot. Absolutely nothing has been written into his profile in the almost one year since he created it…

    him: I remember seeing you, fascinating! to say the least. I’m an artist, do you have studio space in the bottoms.

    me: I am sorry to say that you have me at a disadvantage. your profile offers me nothing to go by for context of when and where we may have met…

    him: You were (regular) at Daddy’s. (spelling corrected because it is my blog, dangit!)

    I won’t respond again unless he sends another message. I pointed out the disparity between the information available to him of me and to me of him. Besides, yes, I know which places I have frequented, that wasn’t the point at all. And if he doesn’t know that, he isn’t worth more of my time.

    Seriously, who starts an exchange offering nothing of himself by asking for even more information about the other person…?

    Blergh.

  • dammit…

    There we were, sitting in over-sized sofas in the living room. What an odd couple we made. I was visiting the city he loved so much for the first time. The sofa made me lean backward too far, which caused noticeable pain. Well, everything caused noticeable pain, as I had pinched a nerve in my shoulder just a week or so before my trip.

    I could barely sit still; it was much more comfortable to move, to pace about, to fidget… but it was difficult for him to match me… You see…? He was just regaining movement, only walking slowly at best, and relearning how to speak clearly.

    As I said, we made an odd couple.

    And it was a thoroughly delightful afternoon visit. It ended too soon, I could see on his face. I imagine that makes sense in a city that zips by so quickly as he takes the time to heal… I was very happy for that afternoon.

    That was when I met him. I didn’t have a chance for another visit this last autumn and I am sad that I can no longer plan another one for the future.

    Shine brilliantly, Jeff. You are loved and missed.

  • theoctothorpe asks:

    So what music are you listening to as of late?

    Music is mostly an incidental thing to me; I listen to whatever happens to be playing… I haven’t bought music for a very long time (perhaps when Annie Lennox’s Diva was newly release…) as the money always seemed better used elsewhere.

    Also, I have this weird thing about my brain, yes, just the one, where I fill in empty space with noise. To me, it is music, although it doesn’t often follow the rules as such; it may just be a rhythm. So, I don’t always notice when music isn’t playing.

    What I have been taking to doing more recent is roaming about youtube for music videos. I certainly replay a handful of artists, as well as hunting down quality parodies…

    Among my current favorites…?

    Pomplamoose.

    Pink.

    Janelle Monae.

    And as for parodies, I think this may be the best I have yet to find:

    Neutraface (it is especially clever if one has a background in typography…and they are hot little otters.):

    Beyond that, I typically click through any music or video link I come across from friends, on any site that I frequent.
    I just don’t actively seek out a bunch of music on my own…

    March is question month, and I am a late adopter…
    Ask your questions here, or on any answer post…

  • dusting off the fancy-pants

    dusting off the fancy-pants

    Okay, fine, a fancy jacket, then…

    Last night, I attended a small gathering at a friend’s place for Mardi Gras. I decided last minute to attend, so I am glad I have been tending to various crazy costume things on the side. This jacket was done a bit ago for an odd event months back about which I never posted. After a brief alteration (a little birdie with a fabulous moustache told me a specific detail had to be put to rest…) I had an outfit assembled in about fifteen minutes.

    That may be a new record.

    O and I have been having an on-going conversation about comfort zones, and about stepping out of them. I have gain compliments and comments about my use of pattern and texture. Playing with these things makes me ridiculously happy.

    That said, this outfit may easily be the biggest risk I have taken with pattern to date. I love that the purples in every single item fell together like they did; I do find it easier to mess around with pattern when the color palette is tight. The shirt and necktie were the biggest risk, and I am really rather happy with the final look. Basically, the shirt is almost too casual to support the tie, but if ever one is to make such risks in clothing, events such as Mardi Gras are the perfect time to jump, as it were.

    The appliques on the lapel and the satin-covered buttons (which can barely be seen above) both came from a rather tragic mother-of-the-bride dress. It was a martyr for the cause of fabulousity, giving of itself so that a dandy may sparkle all that more…

    *sniffle*

    The shirt is Polo by Ralph Lauren in cotton, the silk necktie is Kenneth Cole, the vest is a linen print by DKNY, and the jacket is a beautiful worsted wool with a pinstripe purple plaid about every two inches or so. The jacket is by Palm Beach for The Jones Store. Frankendesigning by yours truly…

    A special note: Now that I understand that the scarf pins missing their stops are actually tie pins and aren’t suppose to have stops, I have a whole new set of accessorizing options. Thank you once again, O.