Question: Do you ever see yourself having another LTR? What do you look for in a potential mate?
Answer: I don’t think of it in those terms. I am not opposed to the concept, but I am not seeking it out. I am looking for connections; real, conscious, sound connections, but I have no drive to make them into specific things. For now, anyway, I am content to let them evolve as they will.
In another interpretation of the LTR, I could say that I currently have many of them, at least six to a dozen in various stages of development, but it is a loose definition and most certainly not a mainstream view of LTR. (I recently described my relationships to a friend back home with the term country-wide network. LOL Not an option found on Facebook…) I currently have no drive to share my living space. I need to be removed from the world in my home, at least for now. I need to learn how to maintain myself while around others; it hasn’t been an easy lesson for me.
As for what I seek? Compatibility. I have an odd take on love. I value it, but I don’t focus on it in my relationships. Not any more. I see love as an incidental; meaning that it will happen over time from the investment put into knowing someone. It doesn’t make things work, but it is a beautiful by-product. Compatibility is the key for me. I don’t need someone into all the same things, but with no overlap, why bother…?
I am a curious person. I like trying things. I think it is important for me to share that in my partners. My most recent ex-partner wouldn’t eat so many food items, which left me out of many things I loved because cooking two meals was ridiculous… He was set very tightly in most things he liked to do. I felt constricted (in a bad way *eg*) and very quickly felt like I had stopped growing. I can’t imagine how that could be a healthy relationship…
I should say: I think I am a hard person to manage. I am easy-going but mostly because everyone can go to their own homes at the end of the day. I am more demanding of myself than of others, but living with me can take its toll. That said, I have no need for a partner to be live-in. I have no need for a relationship to conform to any pre-established notion.
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